Monday, February 27, 2006

Why Porn?

When considering the various genres I could write, instead of asking myself why erotic romance? I'd rather ask myself why not? In fact, why not has become the question I ask myself about just about everything. It's a much more useful question than why because why can be a possibility killer, but with why not the sky's the limit.

Simon Sheppard (thanks, Suns!) has written a good article about the reasons a writer might choose the sexy path, and it made me remember my favorite reason for doing so (aside from the fun factor): because sex is a communication tool and it feels incomplete to me, as a writer, not to include it in a story about love.

When two people are falling in love and having sex for the first time, can there be a more fearful moment? Every insecurity you've ever had about your body and your soul rises to the top and lays out there on your skin. Rarely do you feel so vulnerable and exposed. Except for maybe public speaking and death, I think having sex with someone who means the world to you (even if you don't know it yet) is one of the scariest and most momentous events in your life.

How can a writer not explore such a huge part of being human?

We all remember the first time we had sex, particularly when the sex we had was with an important person. It's a life changing event. For many, it's the moment when they really felt grown-up. It's a right-of-passage and carries a heavy responsibility, with heavy penalties if something goes wrong.

To close the door and assume the reader knows what's going on in your character's heads at such a crucial moment is, in my opinion, a cop out. The reader will only know what they personally would've felt, not what your characters felt. And the raw language of erotic romance is a metaphor for the raw emotions being experienced.

We all know that what we do with our bodies affects our souls and our emotions. So, if people ask how can I write that stuff, I say, how can I not?

Why not write erotic romance?

2 Comments:

Blogger Bron said...

Standing and applauding

Bravo! Bravo!

Well said, Ann. I may have to quote you in my thesis ;-)

February 27, 2006 2:50 PM  
Blogger Ann Wesley Hardin said...

COOL! I'd love that!

You know, it's something I've been wanting to say for a long time. Just had to find the words.

Thanks, Bron!

February 27, 2006 3:09 PM  

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